If you can't phone someone or they don't reply to your messages, then they don't want to talk to you, can't talk to you, or they've blocked you. Hopefully you've not been blocked, but our tips will help you verify whether that's the case.
(If your problem is the opposite and you have an iPhone and want to stop an annoying caller ringing or texting you, here's how to block a number.)
The most common scenario in such a case is that you're being paranoid, and they just haven't got around to replying. But if it's not all in your mind then here are some signs that you've been blocked. Though our tips won't give you a definitive answer, they do make it pretty obvious one way or the other. If you need to be 100 percent sure, you'll need to ask them in person.
What happens to a blocked phone call?
To test what happens to a blocked call, we blocked a number and monitored the experience on both phones. When calling from the blocked number, the caller hears either one ring, or no rings at all, but the other phone remains silent. The caller is then informed that the recipient isn't available, and is diverted to voicemail (if that service is set up by the person you're calling).
We're not sure why the number of rings varies, but if you hear two or more you can be pretty sure you haven't been blocked.
Note that you can leave a message even if someone has blocked you, although the blocker will never be notified of the message. It does appear at the very bottom of their voicemail list in the Blocked Messenger section (if they're on a carrier that supports visual voicemail such as O2 or EE), but most people probably won't check there.
What happens to a blocked text message?
Texting someone who's blocked you works as you would expect. The message sends as normal, and you don't get an error message. This is no help at all for clues.
If you're using an iPhone, you used to be able to get a clue as to whether someone has blocked you by sending an iMessage. The iMessage would attempt to send, but after a couple of minutes it would resend as a text message that would never be received by the person who blocked you.
Now, though, Apple has updated iOS so that (in iOS 9 or later), if you try to send an iMessage to someone who blocked you, it'll remain blue (which means it's still an iMessage). However, the person you've been blocked by will never receive that message. Note that you don't get a 'Delivered' notification.
Have I been I been blocked?
The call is the best source of evidence. The key here is that you will always be diverted to voicemail after exactly one ring - if they were declining your call the number of rings would vary each time and if the phone was switched off, it wouldn't ring at all.
If they were using Do Not Disturb, it would ring as normal, only silently. Also bear in mind that one Do Not Disturb setting allows the user to specify that repeated calls are allowed through so you could always try again right away. Just make sure your call is urgent, or they may block you for real this time!
Finally, we would like to repeat that this isn't an exact science, so don't make any angry scenes without knowing for sure. Also: chill out, relax, and try not to worry about it. If they've blocked your number, hey, who needs them?