Hi eddie not sure if you are reporting me or john.
if it is john then I support what he said.
In a hotel the owner asked how to make some new rooms adaptable , during the conversation I said I hate it when people talk over my wife and I foolishly gave the example of DOES SHE TAKE SUGAR. ….. It was a big mistake of using that as an example because for the rest of the stay the guy thought it funny to ask at every meal time "does she take sugar today".
With regards to "deaf" , many years ago I suddenly realised the optician was asking me the questions he should have been asking my wife. I asked him why he was not asking my wife these questions and I very subtly pointed out that it was only her legs that don't work , the rest of her is ok ! EGG ON FACE TIME.