Money - what would you do? Hypothetically.

  exdragon 21:39 11 Apr 2012

After watching Syndicate last night (group of workmates won £18 million on the lottery), we were discussing how we would apportion some of the winnings to the family. So, say you (on your own or with one partner, no syndicate) won - for the sake of argument - £20 million, how would you share it with your family?

On one hand, one daughter/son in law/granddaughter and on the other, one daughter/four grandchildren and three partners/four great grandchildren.

I don't mean giving money to charity, cats homes or whatever - just your immediate family.

As I said, totally hypothetical, unfortunately!

  Forum Editor 22:23 11 Apr 2012

One thing seems to be a common factor as far as I can tell. What you say/think you would do with the money when you won it is not necessarily what you actually do when it happens.

I worked with someone for years, and he and I often talked about our plans for a big win. Then one day - about three years ago actually - he won £4.5 million on the lottery. Yes, he gave money to his children, but not huge amounts. Yes, he bought a top of the range luxury car, but six months later he traded it back to the dealer and opted for a much smaller car. His wife refused a new car altogether, saying she was very happy with her five year old model.

I talk to him on a regular basis, not to ask for a loan, but to see how he's doing. His life is fine, he has a nice house, lots of holidays, etc., but he says most of his dream plans haven't been actioned - he's just living a quiet, secure life.

It's obviously a lot different with a really big win - £20 million is a very serious pile of money. My children would certainly benefit to quite a large extent from a win that size. Otherwise it would be a new house, a new car each, and long trips to sunny places - total relaxation and not a single worry about a bill, ever again.

  rickf 22:30 11 Apr 2012

I would firstly buy my son a house and give him some funds to invest for his future. I would then consider my duty done and be free al last to do what I want and where I would live and who I want to be with or not as the case maybe. I would continue doing some kind of work, perhaps what I am doing now but on a much smaller scale.

  exdragon 22:47 11 Apr 2012

Ok, but would you give both daughters the same? One has one child, the other has 4 plus all the 'extras'. The same sum to all the grand children, aged from 14 to 29? What about the babies - all under 18 months? Same amount as their parents?

We're talking purely cheques at the moment, cars and houses may well be up to them.

  lotvic 03:14 12 Apr 2012

The Tax man would want his share if you go over the limit of what you are allowed to give away each year and they would have to pay tax on their received gifts.

tax implications to giving money away

  daz60 06:58 12 Apr 2012

Like FE says,won't really know until/if it happens but family comes first then one or two very close friends.Then invest some for the future and give some for individual charitable concerns like the young Chinese chappie who needs surgery for his horrific burns.

  Fruit Bat /\0/\ 09:20 12 Apr 2012

I live close to the young couple that won 45 million recently.

They still live in the same house (not for sale yet), drive the same old car, all they have done so far is have a good holiday. That's not even used any where near the £40,000 a week interest the money must be earning.

  spuds 09:32 12 Apr 2012

Perhaps not the answer, but I recall many years ago, when £75.000.00 was a massive win on the weekly football pools. A neighbour of mine at the time won such an amount.

What he did, was give both his grown up kids an equal pot, irrespective of how many children they had, so that they could purchase a house, possibly a car, with a little left over. He then went to the local working man's club, of which he had belonged to for many years, and made many friends there, and 'opened' the bar for free drinks for a hour or so, to those present on the Friday evening. He and his wife, then left the neighbourhood, set themselves up elsewhere, providing for their own remaining days in what they had always wished and hoped for.

But as perhaps previously been stated, winning is one thing, spending wisely is perhaps another?.

I myself have a number of charities that have been there for me at times of need, and they would receive a larger amount of funding, to that what will already come their way on my death. The rest who knows, I have yet to win anything worth considering as a major surprise, but one day I might need to really consider how to be able to give money away, or provide for some lesser being?.

  spuds 10:37 12 Apr 2012


Didn't that young dustbin man think something like that, and still ended up on the dole :O)

  Flak999 12:12 12 Apr 2012

The first thing I would do is ensure I had opted for no publicity whatsoever!

  john bunyan 12:25 12 Apr 2012

Allocate a relatively small part of the capital for update house, car etc. Hire for a short period somebody to fend off all begging letters. Invest principal to yield income. Use that to pay off grand children's upcoming University fees,provide modest help for older children and grandchildren to have modest housing. Then see how much to allocate to a charity or two. I would only live a bit better than I do now; I have no wish to "live it up".

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