Domestic violence lessons planned

  BIG Ben strikes 10 again! 13:20 25 Nov 2009
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Is it me or is this just a little bit sexist?

I realize that most cases of domestic abuse is most likely perpetrated by men but I'm having a hard time believing that there isn't at least a few men out there being beaten by their wives.

What do you think of this issue?

  Colin 13:43 25 Nov 2009

"Every school pupil in England is to be taught that domestic violence against women and girls is unacceptable".

God help us if these needs to be spelt out to people.

I do take BIG Ben strikes 10 again!'s point, it's not just females, and with the current laddette culture this will increase. It's no longer "lock up your daughters" but "lock up your sons"!

  bremner 14:45 25 Nov 2009

When this was covered on the BBC news they said it would highlight that domestic violence was NOT soley committed by men on women.

I think this could be worthwhile.

I have dealt with many who have witnessed domestic violence as a child and have gone on to be abusers themselves. Many grow up in families where this is the norm and they never get the message that this is not normal behaviour until it is too late.

  wee eddie 14:51 25 Nov 2009

was one of the best things that could have happened to me.

It is no fun being hit by a 'cast' iron frying pan (among other things) and being told, by others, to 'grin & bear it' as there is nothing anyone can do.

Because, as an alcoholic, she was an adept liar and there is absolutely no possibility of any form of retaliation without getting arrested.

  Ford Prefect 01 15:03 25 Nov 2009

Surely before anything else is put onto the National Curriculum, it would be a good idea to ensure that kid's leaving school can read, write and do sums.

  johndrew 15:29 25 Nov 2009

Hear hear.

Whilst I recognise school is about learning, so is the home. Teachers should be dedicated to teaching the three `Rs` and allow specialists to teach such subjects as extra curricular; perhaps outside usual school hours. Such an action would also allow parents to attend.

There is also an argument against teaching such a subject. Teaching children about sex has, apparently, encouraged them to try it out; perhaps teaching them about domestic violence will provide another source of entertainment for them.

In my opinion they should be made to have less time in front of TVs and PCs and more time using their brains constructively.

  Mike D 17:36 25 Nov 2009

It would be interesting to know who will teach this subject. A friend, who is a sexual health advisor/trainer, does work in schools and sixth form colleges and she is constantly amazed by the ignorance shown by the students (who have apparently been on the receiving end of this teaching in schools) and some of the myths that they have been taught.

  oresome 21:14 25 Nov 2009

I suspect the home environment and the attitude of parents is far more influential on the behaviour of offsprings than any lessons conducted in school.

  zzzz999 13:24 28 Nov 2009

Its completely sexist. Independent studies (independent of the quite dreadful women's aid) have shown that women assault men as much and that an attitude survey found 85% of women think its okay to strike a man. Unfortunately there remains a massive stigma with regard to reporting sucg assault. You only have to watch popular soaps to see how much a woman striking a man is now considered empowerment. A former wife of mine was very handy with her hands, she actually split my head open with a wine glass 'when I had annoyed her'. The neighbours called the police hearing the noise and the boys in blue came in fully expecting to arrest the man in the house and get their stats. What greeted them was me sitting with blood pouring out of my head and a half crazed woman. The police advice - could you leave your house sir and maybe stay in a B&B. They of course took absolutely no action against her.

  Forum Editor 13:41 28 Nov 2009

"Its (sic) completely sexist"

What is? The article in the link makes it quite clear that men are also victims of domestic violence. Your claim that independent studies have shown that men are assaulted by women just as much as women are assaulted by men needs some evidence to support it. A Home Office research study published in 2004 showed that around 60% of assault victims were women, and 40% were men.

One of the problems with measuring domestic violence is that although a single incident may be reported, previous incidents may not. That makes it difficult to assess the true extent of the problem. Someone may have endured a series of assaults prior to reporting to Police, whereas another person may make a report following the very first instance.

  wee eddie 14:25 28 Nov 2009

I can vouch for the Police's attitude in the early 80's. I'd had a Vodka bottle broken over my head.

It was also the considered opinion of the Hospital Service, I was advised to find somewhere else to stay for a while, which I did.

While being good advice, I don't think it would have been the same had the bottle been in my hand.

I can't help but note your 'Handle', I was a Restaurateur at the time and was wondering if there is any contributory factor.

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