I dont think i understand your problem very well :S
Anyway i will tell you the basic connection link for using a router.
1. The main internet cable/tv cable should be going straight into your modem.
2. From your modem out port, there should be a wire going directly to you router.
3. Both of these must be on in order to work.
4. And now finally try and search for your router from you computer using the wireless card , which should be inside your computer.