<<< I can't connect to the router and it doesn't configure to give me an IP address. >>>
Try deleting the existing 'profile' in your wireless settings and then "Connect" again - in other words, run the wireless adapter's software, scan for "Available Wireless Networks", find and highlight the one that matches your router's SSID (network name) and select the option to "Connect" to it. Once "Connected", the wireless adapter should get its IP address by DHCP from the router and you should have network and internet access.
<<< and it is not picking up the ADSL signal. >>>
I assume you are aware that it is the *ROUTER* that connects to the ISP via the ADSL service and not one of the computers networked with it?
<<< Does that mean that my laptop always has to be wired because it has the ISP on it. >>>
The laptop shouldn't have ISP software installed in it because, as above, the PC doesn't establish the connection to the internet - that's the *Router's* function. There should be no need for any particular computer to have a "wired" connection to the router. Once configured, all computers in the network should be able to connect wirelessly if that's the method you want to use.