Watchful Parent

  Trickyhicky` 19:11 11 Apr 2004

I have networked two computers in our house, 1 in the study the other in my sons room. We have not set the permissions for my sons computer to go online as we won't be able without going to his room and look over his shoulder. I would prefer to be able to see what he is doing from the study.

So my question is is there any cheap or freeware that will enable me to view his desk top and what he has up with out him necessarily be aware.


  hugh-265156 19:37 11 Apr 2004

you could mount hidden cameras in his walls :-)

im sure there is spying software available but if he finds out you are doing/using this what are you going to say??

  Graham ® 19:41 11 Apr 2004

This has been raised before.Your son will not appreciate your lack of trust, and any program such as NetNanny would quickly be spotted and by-passed.

  spuds 20:01 11 Apr 2004
  Taw® 20:39 11 Apr 2004

As a watchfull parent myself I find that the best net nanny are trust, honesty, openess and education, trust because my kids no more about the puter than me, honesty because if we're not honest then we can't trust, openess cause that leads to trust and education cause if you educate them then they can make decisions for themselves. Hiding things or spying on them will only lead to them distrusting you, good luck

  Forum Editor 21:08 11 Apr 2004

soon know enough about computers to put many adults to shame, and any boy who is old enough to be allowed online will be looking at naked ladies (and more) in double quick time. It's a fact of life I'm afraid, and no matter how hard you try to stop him he'll find a way - if not at your house then at someone else's.

I know it's difficult to accept such things, but they go hand in had with the way that the Internet has seeped into almost every aspect of our lives. My own view is that if a youngster is brought up in a secure, trusting, and loving home he/she will have acquired some pretty good values by the time the Internet beckons, and if you exercise a reasonable degree of tolerance and understanding you'll find that your child soon understands what's good and what's not.

There are spying applications available, but good ones cost good money, and do you really want to snoop on your own son in this way? Far better to talk it through, and leave him with a set of guidelines to follow. He'll have to deceive you to break them, and he won't feel comfortable doing that for long.

  woodchip 21:24 11 Apr 2004

You would do well to move the computer where you can see what's going off, not in bedroom then there is no problem. and you will feel safe, same with TV and porn. This can be just as bad as Computer

  Simsy 21:35 11 Apr 2004

with what FE has just written...

(apart from the first line; ..."Most children soon know enough about computers to put many adults to shame".. Though it is true of many, those of us regularly using this site are perhaps somewhat insular in our experience of PC's and those who use them. Replace the word "Most" with "Many" and it's a bullseye... but there are very many this does not apply to...)

I digress however... the main point FE makes is, I believe, right in the middle of the bullseye.



  Chegs ® 22:08 11 Apr 2004

I usually have a poke thru the "Auto Complete" and "History" files whilst their at school.I also insist a record be kept of any conversations they have online(MSN Messenger has this facility)I have never found anything untoward,and I trust my children not to defy me.I explained the "rules" and why the "rules" existed,and they were happy enough. ;-)

  niknax 22:17 11 Apr 2004

i too do the same as chegs @, and have never also came across anything untoward, and my son is 15 years of age, the "rules" work!!


  VoG II 23:06 11 Apr 2004

Trust is very important. My daughter now has her own laptop and I would not dream of prying into where she has been. I hope (and know) that the reverse applies (she would quickly become bored stupid). I do - very sneakily - check from time to time that AV etc. are up to date. After all, yours truly would have to fix any problems.

An alternative would be to deny him internet access and set him loose on the streets with an axe.

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