I use a free Flash Player from here:
There are various versions of it either as a selectable menu driven "Jukebox" or just as a mp3 player.
The other way to do it would be to fork out around £15 for the Coffe Cup Web Jukebox which is a lot "nicer" to look at.
BTW the re the flashing lights on your drum 'n' bass page. You might be consider using an epileplsy warning on your homepage... just in case someone tries to sue you. (See disclaimers on all video games etc...)
Hope this helps...