and then install the "lamp" server.
You can always get rid of anything within the desktop that you don't want, by using the package manager to un-install those packages.
Then use webmin or something similar to access the server components.
There's huge amounts of help available on-line.
It'll do everything you want.
Or, install a GUI onto Debian (which is a superb server) and then webmin in the same manner.
If you use the command:
will update your system database to the latest packages.
Next, the command:
will bring your system up to date.
Now, the command:
apt-cache search kde
apt-cache search gnome
you should find a whole list of KDE (or gnome) related packages.
apt-get install [package name]
will install anything you want, so at this point, you could install either the KDE or Gnome desktop and then webmin to control your server via a GUI.
should fire up your chosen desktop.
If it were me, the Debian option is the path I'd take, as I feel it's a better option, with a far less bloated footprint and oh so stable! (this is being written on Debian).
To answer your original question, you will find almost no Linux servers that have a GUI as "standard", as it is thought in the server world, they are an unwelcome overhead, but as more and more ex-Windows users join in, GUI's are becoming more commonplace as an addition.