" put the donle in the usb port it flashes and nothing happens."
That is fine. When it is flashing it is searching for other bluetooth devices.
You may have an icon on the desktop called my bluetooth places. This is where transfered files are stored from the phone. What you need to do now is to enable the bluetooth on the phone and send something to the computer. Pick a picture if you have one.
You should then get a warning that a bluetooth device is trying to contact you. You will then have to give the computer and the phone " a name ". You will also be asked to make a password for both devices.
Well, you do on mine.